Finding Peace in Uncertainty

Lately, I’ve found myself in the thick of transition—one of those chapters where everything seems to shift at once. I’m building a house, untangling from certain relationships, trying to simplify my business, and searching for new projects that align with who I’m becoming. It’s exciting. It’s terrifying. It’s deeply uncomfortable.

And it’s brought my relationship with control into sharp focus.

For most of my life, control has been my coping mechanism. If I could plan enough, manage enough, stay two steps ahead, then maybe I wouldn’t have to feel the unease that comes with not knowing. But lately, life has been asking me to surrender the illusion of control—and it's been a humbling experience.

Underneath my busyness, I can feel the anxiety humming. It’s not always loud, but it’s persistent. And I’ve realised that it’s often not fear itself that’s overwhelming—it’s my resistance to what is. Resistance to the unknown. To endings. To not having a clear answer.

I catch myself tensing up, trying to hold all the moving parts together. I think, “If I just figure this one thing out, then I’ll feel better.” But the relief never lasts, because peace doesn’t live in perfection—it lives in presence.

So I’m learning to loosen the control.

To take deeper breaths. To allow space for uncertainty. To remind myself that discomfort isn’t a sign that something’s wrong—it’s often a sign that growth is happening.

And even when I don’t feel entirely grounded, I remind myself that I’m allowed to be in process. That I don’t have to rush to tie everything up in a bow. Life is unfolding, whether I micromanage it or not.

If you’re also in a season of change—if things feel raw or uncertain—I hope you know that you’re not alone. The goal isn’t to eliminate anxiety, but to soften our relationship with it. To move with life rather than against it. To find small moments of stillness, even in the chaos.

Sometimes the bravest thing we can do is let go of what we think we should be controlling, and trust that we’re still okay without all the answers.

I’m walking that path right now. One step at a time.